21 Ass Eating Tips Everyone Should Know
Ass eating. Butt munching. Biting the peach. Rimming. Whatever you call
it, it’s a sex staple for the adventurous and less-squeamish among us
who love playing in the backyard.
Everyone has a butt. This means everyone, regardless of gender, can
receive a world-class rim job. I love getting my ass eaten and will
gladly bend over for anyone. But I don’t rim just anyone. I save my rim
jobs for the guys I like the most — the sexy, special men I want to
please. We hold so much shame about our bodies and our butts that
getting to that special place where you trust someone with your hole is
awesome and intense — and a great bit of foreplay for other forms of
1. Love butts. You have to love butts — or, more specifically, your
special person’s butt. You have to think it’s the cutest, sexiest butt
ever and want to make the person feel really good.
2. It’s a good idea for the recipient to clean their butt beforehand.
(Yes, this means douching.) Washing the outside of your butt is
imperative. Even if you and your partner are fine with your butt being
more natural (not douched), washing the outside makes the whole
experience better. There may be small traces of toilet paper on your
butt that may make the experience less enjoyable, so at the very least,
hop in the shower beforehand and do a once-over with soap (unscented if
your partner loves the natural smell of your skin).
3. If you choose to douche, take your time. Most guys douche. It is
simply more hygienic to douche before mouth-to-ass sex, as there are
some health risks associated with rimming (see number 15).
Don’t rush your douching regimen or you’ll have to hop in the shower
again for another clean, and when someone’s mouth is at your butt and
you’re trying to relax, you don’t want to accidentally release any
trapped water still stuck up there — water that may or may not be clear.
Douching is recommended for a long, nice rimming session — which is a
great precursor to other penetrative sex. And if you want a nice long
session, you might need a nice long cleaning session before it.
Douche by holding water in your butt for a few seconds — anywhere from
six seconds to 15 seconds is the standard recommended time, although
some people go longer — before releasing it into the toilet or down the
shower drain. You can do this with a squeezable bulb, a drugstore enema
(just be sure to empty the liquid and replace it with water first), or a
shower hose attachment (most recommended).
4. Don’t overclean. Over cleaning can mean
cleaning too often (don’t do it every day) or too vigorously (go gentle
and easy) or putting too much water in your butt without releasing it.
Overdouching can disrupt the delicate environment in your rectum and
colon that your body needs to healthily process waste.
My pro tip: Never spend more than an hour getting ready for sex, and
within that hour, take frequent breaks to massage your tummy/abdomen and
make sure you release all the water. If it’s taking too long with no
end in sight, call it quits and go watch Netflix (or tell him to hop in
the shower — you’re giving him a rim job tonight).
5. Don’t start rimming as soon as you’re finished douching. It’s wise to
wait. Water may be trapped up there, and once you’re lying down on your
back or stomach, it may come out. That’s why many people lie on their
left sides: to release trapped douche water. You don’t want to do that
accidentally when his mouth is on your hole.
6. Diet really is everything. Depending on who you ask, medical experts
and others, it’s generally agreed upon that queer men are all over
douching — and that douching in general is a widely unnecessary and even
potentially harmful practice.
Most enemas, hoses, and other cleaning regimens squirt too much water in
your butt, water that can dry out your skin and cause other problems.
Some say that a finger check is enough — if it’s clean, your good to go.
Others say that if you want to clean a little on the inside, you need
way less water than you think.
What most people agree upon is that diet is really everything. Lean
meats (not red meat), veggies, sweet fruits, and foods that don’t cause
gas (cabbage, onions, broccoli) will make your hole smell and taste
better, and fibrous foods will make your cleaning process quicker.
Using the bathroom is your body’s natural way of cleaning out, and it’s
the best way. Fiber compacts your poo and helps you release everything
in your colon when you sit on the toilet. Taking a healthy amount of
fiber does the douching job for you — the natural way (see number 10).
7. Yes, they make rimming lube. They sure do. It’s water-based since no
one wants to slurp up a gob of silicone lube, which does not dry out or
break down in water or spit.
If you have your eye on some exotic-flavored lube — cherry cola or
pineapple — it’s fine to use on the ass as long as it’s water-based.
Water-based lubes are usually made with synthetic glycerin or are
glycerin-free. Synthetic glycerin has a sweeter taste but has been
associated with yeast infections in women and may not be totally
nontoxic for human consumption, so I recommend going with a
glycerin-free, organic, water-based lube.
The flavored water-based lubes by Sliquid are great. I recommend Sliquid
to anyone seeking vegan-friendly, natural lubes without harmful
chemicals, and am continually impressed with this brand.
8. Not everyone craves a cleaned butt before rimming. It’s always OK to
ask. There are many, many guys out there who love the taste and smell of
natural, undouched, aromatic ass and would rather bend you over when
you’re sweaty after the gym and go to town and simply rinse his mouth
out with Listerine after. And if you ever have the pleasure of dating
someone who enjoys (and prefers) dirty butts, congrats — you never have
to worry about douching again.
9. Rimming is about more than tongue. Vary it up. Aggressive rimmers
will go straight for the hole and just lick continuously in the same
motion over and over, gradually pushing the tongue deeper and deeper in.
While this can feel good, it gets boring after a while and can actually
start to wear on the hole. Saliva dries out your skin, and the hole is
the last place you want to dry out, especially if rimming is foreplay
Divide your tongue duty between hole and the hypersensitive area around
it. Make designs and patterns (stars, zigzags, spirals, concentric
rings, horizontal licks, vertical licks, quick dots, long strokes,
etc.). Tickle the hole with just the tip of your tongue, then thrust
your tongue in as deep as it can go. Alternate between the wider, flat
part of your tongue and the narrower, probing tip. Do quick, light licks
between deep, strong, drawn-out ones.
Personally don’t love that light tongue-flicking thing on my hole, but
some guys do. When in doubt, take my boyfriend’s advice: Just make out
with it like it’s a mouth.
10. Daily fiber supplements help! If you don’t consume enough fibrous
foods, you can always take a fiber supplement. I take Metamucil every
day. Fiber is incredibly good (and necessary) for healthy digestion —
and having a clean ass is entirely dependent on your digestive health.
If you’re prone to stomachaches, loose, watery poo, or infrequent bowel
movements, or if you have a hard time getting totally clean for sex, you
probably aren’t consuming enough fiber daily. Most men don’t.
11. Your breath is just as important as your tongue. Use it. Don’t
underestimate the effect of breath on skin. If you’ve ever spooned
someone in bed, you know how someone’s breath can feel on your neck. It
can tickle or comfort, arouse or annoy, depending on your sensitivity.
Breath is vital to a good rim job. Making a small “o” with your lips and
blowing on an asshole (as you would a birthday candle) can make your
partner moan. This is usually a cooler breath. Alternately, when you
breathe on someone’s neck, an openmouthed gush of warm breath will
moisten the hole and add a tingling feeling of expectation — making them
ready for your tongue plunge. Pause, draw it out, and dive.
12. Give his taint some love. If you’re rimming a man, don’t forget the
space around the butt — including the taint (the space between his anus
and testicles). It’s an extremely sensitive area and feels amazing
13. Don’t forget other stuff down there. Ass play is about more than the
hole. There are all sorts of hypersensitive anatomy everyone has below
the belt. If they’re comfortable with you exploring more with your
mouth, give them rimming breaks by straying beyond the butt.
14. If you’re game for it, try shaving! Shaving can keep you from
getting butt hair in your teeth when rimming (yes, that really happens).
It also can be incredibly hot to do for/with someone. I enjoy all kinds
of ass play, so to have a clear view and avoid ingrown hairs caused by
friction and accidental hair-pulling, I generally recommend shaving a
butt if you want to play in it regularly.
The best way to shave your hole and butt is to get someone else to do it
for you, of course. Go slow, use a gentle shaving cream or gel, and try
not to squirm or giggle too much — nicks down there is a pain in the
15. Know the health risks. If you’re getting rimmed, you’re pretty safe.
Sit back and enjoy. If you’re an ass eater, your risks are greater for
contracting gonorrhea, hepatitis A, harmful amoebas, herpes, syphilis
(if there’s an open sore), pinkeye, and other little gifts.
Even cleaned and prepped asses can still carry these gifts, and STDs are
not exclusive to rimming. Most sexual contact has the potential to
transmit unwanted infections. Professionals would recommend the use of
dental dams, but I have never used one and never plan to.
Do what you do and accept the responsibility of getting frequent
sexually transmitted infection tests. Men who have sex with men should
get tested a minimum of every three months for HIV and other STIs.
16. Use teeth sparingly. Some really good rimmers know how to use teeth
(don’t suck in when your teeth are pressed on his hole). If he uses
teeth and it feels good, consider this a pro move. I’ve had bad rim jobs
where guys used teeth and it felt very unpleasant. Paired with the
tongue, teeth can be a nice alternating feeling, a bit of hardness on a
hypersensitive, soft, tender area. But by no means bite, nibble, suck,
chew, or get aggressive with teeth. Ever.
17. If you’re scruffy, use it. Some people love feeling stubble on their
holes (I do!) — but some don’t. This is a personal preference. Best way
to find out if he likes it? Try it and ask. Beard and stubble can
tickle and create a pleasant texture on their hole, but they can also
scratch and irritate it. It all depends on your partner.
18. Don’t be an endless rimmer. The better you rim, the longer you can
do it — but there’s still a limit. No matter how good you are, saliva
will dry out your skin, and rimming will cease to be enjoyable at some
point. I and everyone I know enjoys rimming as foreplay, as a warm-up to
more sex, more ass play, toys, and so on. Read their body language and
learn when to cut yourself off.
19. Don’t bite. I’ve had people bite my hole. No thank you. Some guys
like biting a butt cheek, but I think even that is a bit annoying since
most guys go way too hard. Gentle, light nibbles on an ass cheek are
fine — but the hole? Keep teeth away. The anus has very delicate skin
that can easily tear. For the same reason, that fisting tops should
always trim fingernails and toys should only be soft and smooth, you
should never, never bite the skin down there.
20. Yes, spelling out words with your tongue is a classic trick — and
feels great. Don’t believe me? Try it. This classic trick keeps your
tongue moving in different directions instead of making the same
21. Get loud. Rimming is one of the few sex acts where you need some
verbal or physical reassurance from the receptive person that it feels
good. Just a moan — or a little butt shake — tells your partner you’re
having a good time.
I get very loud when I feel good. Groan, let go and moan into the
pillow. That’s your partner’s invitation to keep going.(pub 10/10)