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  • Transgender Day of Remembrance Marked in New York November 19 & 2...

    A 25-year-old man faces up to 15 years behind bars for assaulting a gay couple in Williamsburg, according to the borough’s top prosecutor, who charged the defendant with a hate crime he said has no place in Brooklyn. ... Show more

  • What Leeway Will City Give Reclaim Pride?

    As the culmination of Transgender Awareness Week, transgender and non-binary New Yorkers and their allies will mark Transgender Day of Remembrance in events across the city on November 19 and 20. TDOR began in 1999, ... Show more

  • Making a Go of It

    The coalition that has been pressing Heritage of Pride (HOP) to fundamentally alter the character of New York City’s annual Pride Parade has shifted goals and is seeking city permits to stage its own march on the last... Show more

  • Chad Griffin to Depart HRC

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  • With Dem State Senate Control, Criminal Justice Reformers Upbeat

    Chad Griffin, who has helmed the Human Rights Campaign, the LGBTQ community’s leading Washington lobby group, since mid-2012, announced he plans to leave the organization in 2019. As the group’s board undertakes a sea... Show more

  • Top International News, In Brief

    A Blue Wave hit New York last week, giving Democrats firm control of the State Senate for the first time in modern memory and offering criminal justice reform advocates — who believe current laws have undermined “the pr... Show more

Article of the Week

handsome hot guy smiling Why Do Hot Guys Make Me Feel Insecure?
BY ADAM D. BLUM

Dear Adam,
At work I meet a lot of very attractive and fit men. I know that sounds like a great job, but I just feel depressed or anxious around hot guys. It’s starting to impact my performance at work. Any advice?
Signed, Sad in Southern California

Dear Sad in Southern California,
Typically when we see someone with a “perfect” body we feel: lust, followed by…jealousy, followed by…feeling bad about our body or our life.

We often make up a story about the guy. Typically the story looks something like: “He probably has a great life, with lots of mind-blowing sex and amazing weekends of fun with friends.”

Which then may lead to another story such as: “Everyone my age has a great life except me.”

We can fall into the comparison trap, which is almost always an unpleasant road trip. I want to reveal what I’ve seen from over 17 years of working mostly with gay men. I must explain that this is my opinion from clinical practice. No one is putting research dollars here.

I’ve noticed that my most attractive and muscular gay male clients struggle the most with feeling bad about their looks. They are more insecure. And it is painful for them. I share this in hopes that it helps you soften some of the damaging stories you may be telling yourself when you see gorgeous men.

Perhaps this information will help you begin to practice telling yourself a new story when you see that guy. The new internal script might look something like this: "That guy is sooo hot. I would love to do him. I wonder how he feels about himself? I hope he’s happy but he might be really insecure."

Tell myself stories? That’s what therapists suggest? Yes, we do. Much of what we think and feel are simply stories we tell ourselves. Stories can be destructive, like when they lead to racist or homophobic beliefs, or they can be life enhancing, like when they tell a story through the lens of compassion or curiosity.

Research shows that gay men suffer from anxiety and insecurity about their bodies more than straight men. Many of us aim for perfect bodies to combat our inner feeling of being “less-than.” We need new stories to help us combat this tendency.

What’s the biggest story gay men tell themselves without even realizing it’s a fake, made up story? That gay men are not as a good as straight men.

These days, after years of practicing the new story, I mostly just enjoy the beauty. I’ve learned that some of the gifts of being alive are seeing beautiful flowers, beautiful buildings, beautiful dogs, and beautiful men.

ADAM D. BLUM, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and the founder of the Gay Therapy Center.
(Pub. 11/18)

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